What if the Pain Women Experience in the Church Equips us to Lead?

It’s a sad reality that many who are called to lead the Church also have wounds from the Church.

And there are unique ways in which that wounding happens for women.

But there is hope! In miraculous and surprising ways, as women heal from that painful experience, it actually equips us to lead. The healing we receive allows us to speak healing to the Church.

So to my sisters I want to say: if the Church has somehow communicated in harmful ways about your body, your gifts, your voice, or your calling, here are the healing words the Lord (also through his Church) has been speaking to me:

You have been told your body is shameful.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who says you are lovely
Because you are made by Him.
And He delights in you.

You have been told your gifts are unnecessary.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who gave you those gifts
And calls you to use them.
He delights in you.

You have been told your voice is unimportant.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who gave you your voice
And he calls you to use it.
He delights in you.

You have been told your calling is a lie.
You are too ordinary, too messy to be used by him.
But there is One who calls you.
Stand up and let him use you.
Ordinary and messy as you are,
Let him speak through you,
Through every story, every tear, every song.
He delights in you.
And he wants to show his delight through you.

It’s taken years for me to receive this kindness. God is slowly healing the ways I’ve been tempted to see myself, showing me that my body, my voice, my gifts are not small, shameful, insignificant. As he lifts my head, I watch how something else wondrous becomes possible.

I’m now able to turn to my mother, the Bride. I’m able to speak this kind of truth over her, against all the lies she too has been told. Her misuse over the centuries has caused her to question her worth, forget her purpose, embrace the twisted identity others have created for her as they misuse her.

The more I receive these kind words of the Beloved, the more I can speak them over His Bride. I say to her:

You have been told your body is shameful.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who says you are lovely.
Because you are made by Him.
And He delights in you.

You have been told your gifts are unnecessary.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who gave you those gifts
And calls you to use them.
He delights in you.

You have been told your voice is unimportant.
Too ordinary, too messy.
But there is One who gave you your voice
And he calls you to use it.
He delights in you.

You have been told your calling is a lie.
You are too ordinary, too messy to be used by him.
But there is one who calls you.
Stand up and let him use you.
Ordinary and messy as you are.
Let him speak through you,
Through every story, every tear, every song.
He delights in you.
And he wants to show his delight through you.

This article was written for Missio Alliance and is republished with permission.